Healing From Loss…

Its a deeply sad part of life, but loss happens to all of us and when it does, it can wash over us like a heavy gray rain. When experiencing a big loss, we often feel saturated with grief, and the overflow can spill into your physical body. Loss becomes a physical emptiness, and the longing is transformed into feelings that can rarely be put into words. Very often the pain that wounds us most deeply also leaves the most enduring mark upon us… and mending the heart can seem a task so monumental that we dare not attempt it for fear of inviting more pain. However the shock of loss that becomes a throbbing ache of the heart eventually leads us down the path of a new depth and richness. 



Simply acknowledging heartbreak’s impermanence by no means dulls its sting, but  in time we begin to understand, it is the sting itself that stimulates healing. The pain is letting us know that we need to pay attention to our emotions, to sit with our feelings and be in them fully before we can begin to heal.

It is said that time heals all wounds… and indeed time may dull the pain of a broken heart, but it is fully feeling your pain and acknowledging it that will truly help you heal. Someone close to me once said “Dealing with your heartache in a healthy way rather than putting it off for tomorrow is the key to repair and gentleness more than anything else is called for”. To go one step further, I think the most important thing is to slowly begin to open yourself to the possibility of loving, trusting, and believing again… and when someday you emerge from the grief of loss, you will emerge on the other side of the mending, stronger for all you have experienced.